Stop placing yourself in the friend zone

One of the funniest things about the friend zone is that most guys don’t realize that they place themselves in it.

If a guy knows that he can naturally attract women by displaying some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that women find attractive (e.g. confidence, charisma, masculine vibe, ability to make her laugh and feel girly around him, etc), then he won’t place himself in the friend zone by thinking that a woman only likes him as a friend.

Rather than hoping that he will grow on a woman by being a friend and eventually get a chance with her one day, he knows that a woman will instantly experience feelings of sexual attraction for him and will want more than just a friendship with him.

Based on the confidence he has in his ability to make her feel attracted to him, he simply takes on the role of a potential lover or boyfriend (i.e. he feels free to hug her, touch her, he moves in for a first kiss, he asks her out on a date, he has sex with her, etc).

So, if you want to date this friend you like, you must ensure that you don’t doubt your ability to create feelings of sexual attraction inside of her.

Don’t wait around hoping that she suddenly feels attracted to you because you’re such a good, decent guy. That’s not how it works.

A woman’s sexual attraction is triggered when a man displays certain personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities.

Once that attraction is there, the man then needs to believe in himself and move things forward to a kiss, sex and into a relationship, rather than placing himself in the friend zone and hoping that the woman makes the first move.

Here’s the thing…

Most women are passive when it comes to dating. What I mean by that is: Women tend to just go along with whatever a confident guy wants to do.

For example: If a woman meets a confident guy and he asks for her number, tells him to join him at the bar for a drink or asks her out on a date, she will usually just say, “Umm, okay” or “Yes, that sounds good” and go along with it.

That is the role that women refer to play in the dating scene. Women prefer to guided from conversation to kiss to sex and into a relationship, rather than having to take on that leading role themselves.

Being passive and allowing a confident guy to lead her, allows a woman to feel feminine and girly in comparison to the man’s masculine approach, which is a turn on for her.

If you place yourself in a the friend zone, a woman will rarely, if ever say something like, “Hey – stop placing yourself in the friend zone. Touch me. Start kissing me. Let’s go home and have sex!”

In most cases, she will simply be passive and accept that you lack confidence in your attractiveness to her and may also lack the maturity to take on the leading role as the man.